凯莉·巴尼特得知后对她的儿子有一种“可怕的感觉”艾比门自杀爆炸事件喀布尔机场外，忙碌的美国士兵。从阿富汗撤军.
“我不停地给他发短信，‘你还好吗?“你还好吗，”巴尼特是海军陆战队上士达林·泰勒·胡佛的母亲，她在周日播出的一个节目中告诉美国广播公司“本周”节目的联合主持人玛莎·拉达兹我开了三、三个小时的车回家。回家的路上，我一直在哭泣。我就知道出事了。我能感觉到。"
胡佛是2021年8月26日在袭击中丧生的13名美国军人之一。拉达茨和他的母亲以及那天阵亡的另外两名海军陆战队员的金星家庭成员坐在一起。
随着塔利班在2021年席卷阿富汗，6000名美国士兵被派往喀布尔机场，帮助数万名绝望逃离的平民撤离。修道院大门是唯一剩下的公共入口，尽管混乱和危险，人们还是蜂拥而至。自杀式炸弹袭击者将在那里引爆他的装置，结束13名军人和170多名阿富汗平民的生命。
爆炸发生前不到一周，海军陆战队中士妮可·吉(Nicole Gee)上传了一张她在喀布尔机场抱着一个婴儿的照片，并配有文字说明:“我爱我的工作。”23岁时，吉自愿加入了这项任务。
“她告诉我，她从未见过如此绝望的人，”吉的婆婆克里斯蒂·沙布林说，她与她有着亲密的关系。“我认为一旦她看到这一点，她就会尽全力帮助他们获救。”
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类似的心态激励了31岁的胡佛，这是他第三次被派往阿富汗。
巴尼特说:“我听他的许多朋友和手下说，当他们需要休息的时候，他不想休息。”“他想留在那里，继续把人带进来。”
珊瑚布里塞诺允许她的儿子温贝托桑切斯在17岁时加入海军陆战队。被朋友和家人称为“伯特”的桑切斯想加入，让他的母亲感到骄傲。
“有一天，他突然出现，说，我想让你去报名，因为我加入了海军陆战队，”布里塞诺说。“我说，‘为什么?’他说，“因为我想成为精英中的精英，我想让你骄傲。”"
这些金星家庭成员确切地记得当他们发现他们的亲人在倒下的人当中时他们在哪里。Shamblin和她的儿子Jarod一起度假，Jarod是Gee的丈夫，也是一名海军陆战队队员。
“当我们看到13名军人被杀的消息时，他对我说，‘妈妈，我有一种非常不好的预感。’”她分享道。“我们彻夜未眠，等待着我们知道即将到来的电话。随着时间的推移，我们没有听到她的消息，我的儿子知道了。我想，我当时处于震惊或否认之中。”
巴尼特回忆说，她自己也被恐惧所困扰。
“我晚上7点左右到家，门铃响了。我看着我的女婿，我们都只是下降之前，我们甚至看着门。我们知道，”她说。
“你还记得什么，珊瑚?”拉达茨问道。
“我去睡觉，但我睡不着。我当时醒着，”布里塞诺回忆道。“1点42分，我听到枕头下的手机在震动。我不想回答。”
打了第二个电话后，布里塞诺的丈夫让她接电话。海军陆战队有关于伯特的信息，但在错误的地址。
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“我给了他们我的地址，他们说，‘我们几分钟后就到。’所以当我下楼时，我仍然希望他们会说，“你的儿子受伤了，我们必须带你去某个地方，”布里塞诺说当我看着窗户时，我看到了我的丈夫，我说，'请告诉我，他们没有穿礼服。'然后他只是摇摇头。"
爆炸发生三天后，所有13名服役人员的遗体抵达多佛空军基地，参加庄严的移交仪式，总统乔·拜登在那里迎接家属。这三位母亲非但没有感到安慰，反而都表示感到不受尊重。
“政府似乎不知道我们的故事，”Shamblin说。“他们似乎不知道妮可的名字，我们的名字。军方的人当然知道我们的故事，妮可的名字，我们的名字。这是以一种非常真诚和充满爱的方式向我们表达的。但当涉及到西装革履的人时，它就显得虚伪和空洞。”
“首先，他叫我‘洛佩兹女士’，而我不是‘洛佩兹夫人’，”布里塞诺说。“他只是谈论他的儿子，说他知道或理解我们的感受，因为他失去了他的孩子，他不知道我们的感受，因为他去世时他和他的儿子在一起。我们没有这个特权。我们在棺材里接受了我们的孩子。”
布里塞诺补充说，她觉得总统的遭遇“完全是为了他”
巴尼特强调说:“作为一个家庭，我们已经决定不会见总统，所以我们实际上是在边上的一个房间里。”
这家人最终决定去停机坪，拜登在那里看了好几次表。
“这完全是不尊重，”巴尼特说。“已经不仅仅是恶心了。”
Raddatz回忆起拜登退场时的一个突出时刻，人群中有人尖叫道，“在地狱里燃烧吧。”
“那是我的女儿，”巴尼特说。“她是认真的。”
这些母亲，以及13名阵亡军人的其他几名家庭成员，一直在强烈呼吁拜登政府的透明度和问责制。上周，这三个人都参加了由众议院外交事务委员会主席迈克尔·麦克考尔(Michael McCaul)主持的圆桌讨论，这标志着这些金星家庭中的几个首次聚集在国会山。这些悲痛的家庭表示，他们将继续寻找答案。
在回答美国广播公司新闻的询问时，白宫国家安全委员会发言人约翰·柯比说，白宫知道“这些家庭中的每一个人仍然遭受痛苦，仍然悲伤，仍然渴望在喀布尔遇难的亲人。”
“我们也知道，说什么都不能减轻他们的痛苦。但我们确实希望他们知道总统和第一夫人是多么坚定地致力于纪念他们的海军陆战队、士兵和水手的服务和牺牲，”柯比继续说道。“为了让成千上万的阿富汗人有可能过上全新的生活，这些勇敢的男男女女都献出了年轻的生命。我们永远不会忘记这一点。”
虽然这些家庭成员表示，他们的悲痛将永远伴随着他们，但他们希望我们的机构能够做出改变，以避免另一场混乱的冲突或撤退。
Shamblin说:“你知道，这是我唯一真正希望的，这样我们的金星家庭就不会再多一个成员了。”“我们很爱对方，但我们不想再要了。”
Gold Star mother on Biden's conduct at dignified transfer ceremony: 'Total disrespect'
Kelly Barnett had a "horrible feeling" about her son after learningof the suicide bombing at Abbey Gateoutside Kabul's airport amid the hectic U.S.withdrawal from Afghanistan.
"I kept texting him, 'Are you OK? Are you good?'" Barnett, mother of Marine Staff Sgt. Darin "Taylor" Hoover, told ABC "This Week" co-anchor Martha Raddatz in a segment that aired Sunday. "I had a three, three-hour drive back to my house. That whole drive home, I was sobbing. I knew something was wrong. I could feel it."
Hoover was one of 13 U.S. service members who died in the attack on Aug. 26, 2021. Raddatz sat down with his mother and the Gold Star family members of two other Marines killed that day.
As the Taliban swept through Afghanistan in 2021, 6,000 U.S. troops were dispatched to the Kabul airport to aid the evacuation of tens of thousands of civilians desperate to flee. Abbey Gate was the only remaining public entrance for civilians who swarmed the gate despite the chaos and danger. It was there that the suicide bomber would detonate his device, ending the lives of the 13 service members and more than 170 Afghan civilians.
Less than a week before the bombing, Marine Sgt. Nicole Gee posted a photo of herself holding an infant at the Kabul airport with the caption, "I love my job." At 23 years old, Gee volunteered to join the mission.
"She shared with me that she had never seen people so desperate," said Christy Shamblin, Gee's mother-in-law, with whom she shared a close relationship. "And I think once she saw that, she was just going to give 100% to help them be rescued."
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A similar mindset motivated 31-year-old Hoover, who was on his third deployment to Afghanistan.
"I have heard from many of his friends, his men, that had said that when it was time for them to take a break, he didn't want to," said Barnett. "He wanted to stay out there and continue to bring people in."
Coral Briseno gave her son, Humberto Sanchez, permission to join the Marine Corps at 17. Known as "Bert" by friends and family, Sanchez wanted to join to make his mother proud.
"One day he just show[ed] up and said, I want you to go and sign up because I enlist in the Marines," Briseno said. "And I said, 'Why?' And he said, 'Because I want to be the best of the best and I want to make you proud.'"
These Gold Star family members remember exactly where they were when they found out their loved ones were among the fallen. Shamblin was on vacation with her son Jarod, Gee's husband and a fellow Marine.
"As soon as we saw the news that 13 service members had been killed, he said to me, 'Mom, I have a very bad feeling,'" she shared. "And we stayed up that whole night waiting for our phone call that we knew was coming. As time wore on and we didn't hear from her, my son knew. I was, I think, in shock or denial."
Barnett recalls being gripped by fear herself.
"I got home around 7 p.m., [and the] doorbell rang. And I looked at my son-in-law, and we both just dropped before we even looked at the door. We knew," she said.
"What do you remember, Coral?" Raddatz asked.
"I went to sleep, but I could not sleep. I was awake," Briseno recalled. "At 1:42, I hear my phone vibrating under my pillow. I don't want to answer."
After a second call, Briseno's husband told her to pick up the phone. The Marines had information about Bert but were at the wrong address.
"I gave them my address and they said, 'We're gonna be there in a few minutes.' So as soon as I went downstairs, I still [had] hope that they were going to [say] 'Your son's got wounded and we have to take you somewhere,'" Briseno said. "When I look at the window, I just saw my husband and I said, 'Please tell me that they are not in full dress.' Then he'd just shake his head."
Three days after the bombing, the remains of all 13 service members arrived at Dover Air Force Base for the dignified transfer ceremony, where President Joe Biden was there to greet the families. Instead of feeling comforted, all three mothers described feeling disrespected.
"The administration didn't seem to know our story," Shamblin said. "They didn't seem to know Nicole's name, our names. People from the military certainly knew our story, Nicole's name, our names. And that was expressed to us in a way that felt very genuine and loving. But when it came to the people in suits, it felt disingenuous and hollow."
"First, he called me 'Ms. Lopez,' and I was not 'Mrs. Lopez,'" Briseno said. "And he just talk[ed] about his son and said how much he knows or he understand[s] how we feel because he lost his kid and he didn't feel -- he didn't know how we feel because he was there with his son when he passed. We didn't have the privilege. We received our kids in a casket."
Briseno added that she felt the president made the encounter "all about him."
"We had decided as a family that we would not meet with the president, so we were actually in a room on the side," Barnett emphasized.
The family ultimately decided to go onto the tarmac, where Biden checked his watch multiple times.
"It was just total disrespect," Barnett said. "It's beyond disgusting."
Raddatz recalled a prominent moment during Biden's exit, where someone in the crowd screamed, "Burn in hell."
"That was my daughter," Barnett said. "And she meant it."
These mothers, along with several other family members of the 13 fallen service members, have been extremely vocal in their calls for transparency and accountability from the Biden administration. Last week, all three were among a group who participated in a roundtable discussion led by House Foreign Affairs Committee Chairman Michael McCaul, marking the first time several of these Gold Star families gathered on Capitol Hill. And these grieving families say they will continue to seek answers.
In response to an inquiry from ABC News, White House National Security Council spokesman John Kirby said the White House knows "each of these families still suffer, still grieve and still yearn for loved ones killed in Kabul."
"We also know that very little can be said to ease their pain. But we do hope they know how deeply committed the President and First Lady remain to honoring the service and sacrifice of their Marines, their Soldier and their Sailor," Kirby continued. "Each of these brave men and women lost their young lives trying to make possible entirely new lives for thousands of Afghans. And we will never forget that."
While these family members say their grief will be with them forever, their hope is that changes will be made in our institutions to avoid another chaotic conflict or withdrawal.
"That's all I can really hope for, you know, so that we don't have another addition to our Gold Star family," Shamblin said. "We love each other very much, but we don't want any more."
